When teachers mess with me...this is what they get FIRED

by Guest Wed May 23, 2012 3:38 pm

COMPLAINT CONCERNING A SCHOOL DISTRICT EMPLOYEE
PART 2 (THE FIRST PART WILL NOT FIT ON THE ORIGINAL FORM)

Mrs. Rudolf basically verbally attacked me and would not stop even after me asking her to stop. I had told her that she was making me feel attacked. I was calm at first, but since I tried to communicate that she was trying to place me in an emotional corner; instead, she kept on saying disrespectful things and kept cutting me off as I was trying to communicate to her. However, I felt I was not being heard so I raised my voice. Still, Mrs. Rudolf continued to interrogate me in font of her assistant teacher Mrs. Eckoff, and another parent, and three children -including in font of my son. I felt threatened and boxed into a corner and accused of not caring for my son’s well being and that my priorities are not in order in regards to my son. I go upset and I felt like crying because I was accused of not caring for my beautiful son- so I left the room and proceeded to go home. Upon walking off the school campus, I saw the lovely Principal Mrs. Betsy Wilcox. She saw me and I told her the situation. She advised me that I have the option to write a formal complaint if I still felt I cannot resolve this issue. However, I felt that I needed to calm down first before making a rash decision based on raw and hurt emotions. So I went home to calm down.

The next day, I called a few friends and family for advice about this matter. All of them told me to go through with the complaint; and now so I am. Another point my friends and family reminded me of the reason for this complaint is that Mrs. Rudolf wants my precious son to go to additional counseling outside of the school counseling. I am not against outside school counseling at all. In fact I have been working on selling my entire businesses (11 of them) do so. Hence, Mrs. Rudolf was not hearing me and kept continuing to interrogating me and placing me in an emotional cage. My life is full of emotional stressors that I am working on resolving but each one takes time to complete each step. I as a human and I cannot do everything. I have limits as so does my son. This incident has caused me to reach a limit I thought would never get to. Mrs. Rudolf had not tried to understand nor can she walk a mile in my shoes. I have gone through a lot in this year alone with the loss of my husband, probate, 11 businesses, being a single mother, and now, having to deal with this drama and a lack of caring or understanding on Mrs. Rudolf’s behalf to my and my lovely son’s situation. She is on the attack and not on our side.

Another complaint that I have against Mrs. Rudolf is that she never finds any thing positive about my son. It’s never anything he does that is positive or correct that Mrs. Rudolf focuses on. She wonders why my son acts up in her class it’s because she fuels the negative behavior with negative attention, so he does negative things for the attention that he gets from her. If she would focus on the positive things then all that my son Sceauh would do is positive behavior; that is what I do at home and his behavior had dramatically improved! If Mrs. Rudolf had passed a course in psychology as she claims she did, she would know this and not fuel this negative cycle of behavior. So obviously she needs to retrain herself all over in that area to be a good special education teacher.

I brought up this issue several times to Mrs. Rudolf and in our scholastic meeting with Mrs. Wilcox and the school psychologist present with the issue then; but as you see the issue is not resolved. So since my son was receiving counseling at school I thought it best to get him into and extra curricular activity so I got him and myself into martial arts. My son has gotten better. Mrs. Rudolf wonders why my son “acts up” in her class- but not for me-his mom. Maybe, just maybe, she is enabling him and thus hindering him mentally, emotionally and socially by continuing to focus on his negative qualities.

My son tells me that when he is in class that he feels like he is the bad guy-like he can’t do anything right when he is in class. So then he feels free to act up. He never gets any praise when he does some thing right. So then that makes him not want try in class or do any work correctly in class. I am wondering when my son will get any understanding!

On April 14, 2008 my husband-his daddy passed away from cancer. My son has been coping as best as any child can. You cannot rush the healing process and we all deal with grief in a different way. Mrs. Rudolf has grown cold, lack of understanding, uncaring, distant for what my son and I go through. She’s got in her head that she has walked my shoes when she has not. She has no idea what it is like to have a husband/father to your children die in front of you. She’s got my life figured out in her eyes so it seems like she feels that she can judge me and know what my and my son’s schedule is like.

At one time or more I had a deep love and respect for Mrs. Rudolf. However, this incident has made a bitter and sour flavor in my mouth. I was once eager to listen to her suggestions and guidance and now I have grown a deaf ear to her noise. She made me cry on the day of this incident after I had a happy and gleeful day. My day was ruined over this incident.

Mrs. Rudolf’s lack of understanding causes me to be confused about how a teacher should be. We come to her for support and safety but now my son and I do not even feel that from her. Her attack on me was uncalled for. I do not feel safe alone with her emotionally. For a better comparison that she placed me in a place where she was probably hoping I would feel embarrassed about not doing counseling for my son; at the exact moment when she wanted me to do. But I am not embarrassed; I am coping and doing what I can as I can. She seems to not care to try to understand. She got frustrated when I said I wasn’t going to the counseling for my son at this present moment. Later on when things calm down in life here, counseling will be a twice a week thing and a part of our healing process. Therefore, this is not the appropriate time for that. Right now I am trying to bond with my son through martial arts and that is working, but even this needs time to be a part of our routine. Consistency is the key in this situation and a lot of love.

I thank GOD for when I took anger management classes to deal with all that I am going through that helps me handle this complaint in a civil and fail way. I feel that Mrs. Rudolf would benefit from taking anger management classes, child developing classes, grief class/counseling and retaking a psychology course would add to her benefit to be a better teacher. Hopefully this would be a positive turning point for all parties involved.
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THERE IS NOTHING BUT NON STOP DRAMA WITH THIS TEACHER!!! THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS THAT ARE GOING ON WITH THAT TEACHER...SHE NEEDS TO GET A MAN! MAYBE THAT IS THE REASON WHY SHE IS SUCH MEAN PERSON!